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Words of Advice For the Unmarried Woman

 

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In the Bible Ephesians 5:15-17 says:

"Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is."  (NIV)

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prettyflowers     I cannot stress enough how important obedience is!  Once an unmarried woman is aware of God's prohibition against marrying an unbeliever, she is accountable to that knowledge!  To then marry an unbeliever for any reason is to disobey God Almighty and there will be consequences.  By the same token obedience will naturally reap blessings!  So ask yourself, "Does God want what's best for me?  Does He know what's best for me?"  The answer of course is, "Yes!"  And He wouldn't have given us this command if He hadn't known it would be for our ultimate good.

How you can avoid becoming unequally yoked.

     This advice stems from mistakes I've made and successes I've seen.

  • Be honest about who you are as a Christian and behave as such.  Do this at all times, in every situation you find yourself in, that way any potential spouse will know exactly where you stand in Christ.
  • Only date believers.  Don't even begin a relationship with someone you know is a non-Christian.  This is not to say you can't be friends with a non-Christian, but it will save you a lot of heartache if you don't become emotionally and romantically invested.
  • Don't be afraid to ask the obvious questions, "What do you believe about Jesus Christ?  Is He your personal Savior?"  And don't think you're being rude either--you're not.  Asking this question makes it clear that this is vitally important to you, and a man's answer can help you determine what kind of relationship he has with Christ or whether he even has a relationship with Christ.
  • Pray that God would reveal His Will to you regarding a future spouse.  Pray that He would make it clear.  (I always tell Him that a little sky-writing would help...)  Difficult as it may seem, be prepared to accept that God may not intend for you to marry.

Click here for a list of Proverbs that you can use to determine a man's character.

One final thought...

     There were some details about living with an unbeliever that seemed insignificant to me at first but gained importance as my own faith grew.  Of all the things I miss out on with my husband at a spiritual level, his prayers for me are what I miss the most.  Here is the person who knows me best, who knows my likes, dislikes, dreams, desires, failings and struggles, and he isn't praying for me.  This puts me in the position of having to tell others my personal prayer needs and, in some cases, I may not even realize I have a need.  My husband may know something isn't right, yet...he isn't praying for me.  This is certainly something to consider carefully as you choose a spouse.  Will he pray for you?
God wants the very best for us.
Scripture References Psalm 103:5,  James 1:17,  2 Peter 1:5-8